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Married And Serious Relationship / Re: serious relationship/married &/or their partner
« on: November 20, 2012, 01:44:04 pm »
How did you 2 meet? He started flirting and teasing me...I flirted and teased back. He was hilarious, and I blew him off initially because I misjudged him as one of the kids who were constantly in trouble with the law. In reality, he was just friends with them, and impressed me greatly by being held strong to his standards with zero care in the world what anyone would have to say about it. I wasn't as confident in that respect back then. I actually think he played a major role in my getting there though 
What was the relationship like initially? Friendship for a few months, before becoming a couple. We drove around in his car (with a system) bumping to ICP and Master P, haha! He taught me how to drive and when he got several speeding tickets in a short amount of time, his license was suspended, so I drove us around in his car with a temp license for a few mos. :p He taught me a bunch about cars, and we used to page each other "I love you" in numbers (flipped upside down) He was always hilarious, and I laugh easily so there were plenty of times I was laughing tears, spitting a mouthful of coffee across a table in a restaurant, and even peed my pants, haha! This of course made him laugh I'd say, we had a lot of fun doing nothing usually. There was a lot of fighting over stupid things, and a lot of me being difficult and stubborn. I acted like a spoiled brat, but he seemed to think it was cute or something because he was always smiling and laughing whenever I got like that. He liked to spoil me whenever he had extra money, like taking me to get my nails done, or taking me shopping. I LOVED this He had some jealousy issues when other guys came around me, but we grew up. Anyway, I'm not sure what made him tolerate some of my crap when he simply walked away from others, but he did, and there was something about him that kept my attention longer than anyone else ever had...maybe it's because he is adaptable.
Where did you meet? Highschool science class.
Did the ENTJ in the relationship have walls/not let you in easily? How did you break through the walls/prove yourself? I guess he did have some walls, but I didn't really notice it that much at the time. I just thought he was sort of shy in a way. He tried to show me a lot of respect...his way of saying "see, I'm above the mindless douchebaggery of treating women like meat", which I greatly appreciated, but I was no angel when it came to him, and after a while I kinda wanted him to loosen up a bit. This led to me doing things comparable to the whipped cream bikini scene in Varsity Blues, haha! However, it wasn't AS extreme as that, and he dug it, so it worked out
What is your story? Umm, well...we were HS sweethearts, then we each went to local colleges. I finished first and supported us while he finished school. We lived together in an apartment for a year before getting married. The year we got married, we bought a cute little house close to his school. 2 years later we had our first baby...then another came. He went to school part time through the baby making years. He graduated and we had our 3rd baby the same year. Then we relocated to a bigger place with a bigger yard for the kiddies to grow up. Now, I'm a stay at home Mom, and he still likes to spoil me However, just being able to go run errands together without packing up kids is fun! Seriously, Panera Bread and bumming around is my favorite way to spend time with him nowadays We have made it through teen years, college, family tragedies, growing up, having babies, and breadwinner role reversal. Like it takes work. The work is worth it when you both want it, and that's all there is to it.
Post anything else you'd like to share. Most important things in my opinion (in no particular order): Respect, autonomy, compromise, doing new things together, admitting mistakes, having fun, keeping your sense of humor, listening, apologizing, communication, and keeping up the relationship even with a busy life and kids...date nights, affection, sex, looking nice, all of it.
What was the relationship like initially? Friendship for a few months, before becoming a couple. We drove around in his car (with a system) bumping to ICP and Master P, haha! He taught me how to drive and when he got several speeding tickets in a short amount of time, his license was suspended, so I drove us around in his car with a temp license for a few mos. :p He taught me a bunch about cars, and we used to page each other "I love you" in numbers (flipped upside down)
He was always hilarious, and I laugh easily so there were plenty of times I was laughing tears, spitting a mouthful of coffee across a table in a restaurant, and even peed my pants, haha! This of course made him laugh I'd say, we had a lot of fun doing nothing usually. There was a lot of fighting over stupid things, and a lot of me being difficult and stubborn. I acted like a spoiled brat, but he seemed to think it was cute or something because he was always smiling and laughing whenever I got like that. He liked to spoil me whenever he had extra money, like taking me to get my nails done, or taking me shopping. I LOVED this He had some jealousy issues when other guys came around me, but we grew up. Anyway, I'm not sure what made him tolerate some of my crap when he simply walked away from others, but he did, and there was something about him that kept my attention longer than anyone else ever had...maybe it's because he is adaptable.Where did you meet? Highschool science class.
Did the ENTJ in the relationship have walls/not let you in easily? How did you break through the walls/prove yourself? I guess he did have some walls, but I didn't really notice it that much at the time. I just thought he was sort of shy in a way. He tried to show me a lot of respect...his way of saying "see, I'm above the mindless douchebaggery of treating women like meat", which I greatly appreciated, but I was no angel when it came to him, and after a while I kinda wanted him to loosen up a bit. This led to me doing things comparable to the whipped cream bikini scene in Varsity Blues, haha! However, it wasn't AS extreme as that, and he dug it, so it worked out
What is your story? Umm, well...we were HS sweethearts, then we each went to local colleges. I finished first and supported us while he finished school. We lived together in an apartment for a year before getting married. The year we got married, we bought a cute little house close to his school. 2 years later we had our first baby...then another came. He went to school part time through the baby making years. He graduated and we had our 3rd baby the same year. Then we relocated to a bigger place with a bigger yard for the kiddies to grow up. Now, I'm a stay at home Mom, and he still likes to spoil me
However, just being able to go run errands together without packing up kids is fun! Seriously, Panera Bread and bumming around is my favorite way to spend time with him nowadays We have made it through teen years, college, family tragedies, growing up, having babies, and breadwinner role reversal. Like it takes work. The work is worth it when you both want it, and that's all there is to it.Post anything else you'd like to share. Most important things in my opinion (in no particular order): Respect, autonomy, compromise, doing new things together, admitting mistakes, having fun, keeping your sense of humor, listening, apologizing, communication, and keeping up the relationship even with a busy life and kids...date nights, affection, sex, looking nice, all of it.