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Married And Serious Relationship / Re: serious relationship/married &/or their partner
« on: November 20, 2012, 01:45:51 pm »
How did you 2 meet?
friend of a friend
What was the relationship like initially?
I'm the ENTJ in the dynamic so ... a power struggle because I'm not submissive by default in the stereotypical/traditional male/female dynamic. In theory, he liked that I was, in his words, "different from other women", but in application it was a bit of a struggle at first. He would tend to try to take charge of everything and expect to do so because he was "the man"(his emphasis).
Our first fight was about the TV remote. (that's funny now, but at the time ... not so much). After I had pointed out that just because he was "the man" that didn't mean that he could ride roughshod over me (Me to him: "Ain't gonna happen, Sparky") he decided to (in his mind) offer an olive branch. His comment: "I've decided to let you be in charge of the remote tonight."
Me: "Excuse me??? ... you're going to LET ME be in charge of the remote? LET ME???"
Huge fight. It took us a while to work out how the dynamic was going to play out. He had to let go of some of his chauvinism, and I had to back off being such a bossypants. We worked it out. We actually get along really well. We had a few battles initially, but don't really argue anymore. It works.
Where did you meet?
We went to the same high school, but never really crossed paths. He hung out with his small group of friends (Mr Introvert) and I was involved in all kinds of clubs and activities (Ms Extravert). Several years later, one of his friends married one of mine, and it threw us into the same social circle. We were both dating other people, and were casual (hey, how ya doin?) type friends. Didn't see each other much. One of his friends moved in downstairs from me in my apartment building. I was talking with the friend one day and Hubby showed up. We hit it off ...
Did the ENTJ in the relationship have walls/not let you in easily? How did you break through the walls/prove yourself?
The ENTJ - That would be me ... but we're both kind of private. We're different, but the same in a lot of ways. It was just a matter of time and mutual respect.
http://www.womanformanlife.com/
friend of a friend
What was the relationship like initially?
I'm the ENTJ in the dynamic so ... a power struggle because I'm not submissive by default in the stereotypical/traditional male/female dynamic. In theory, he liked that I was, in his words, "different from other women", but in application it was a bit of a struggle at first. He would tend to try to take charge of everything and expect to do so because he was "the man"(his emphasis).
Our first fight was about the TV remote. (that's funny now, but at the time ... not so much). After I had pointed out that just because he was "the man" that didn't mean that he could ride roughshod over me (Me to him: "Ain't gonna happen, Sparky") he decided to (in his mind) offer an olive branch. His comment: "I've decided to let you be in charge of the remote tonight."
Me: "Excuse me??? ... you're going to LET ME be in charge of the remote? LET ME???"
Huge fight. It took us a while to work out how the dynamic was going to play out. He had to let go of some of his chauvinism, and I had to back off being such a bossypants. We worked it out. We actually get along really well. We had a few battles initially, but don't really argue anymore. It works.
Where did you meet?
We went to the same high school, but never really crossed paths. He hung out with his small group of friends (Mr Introvert) and I was involved in all kinds of clubs and activities (Ms Extravert). Several years later, one of his friends married one of mine, and it threw us into the same social circle. We were both dating other people, and were casual (hey, how ya doin?) type friends. Didn't see each other much. One of his friends moved in downstairs from me in my apartment building. I was talking with the friend one day and Hubby showed up. We hit it off ...
Did the ENTJ in the relationship have walls/not let you in easily? How did you break through the walls/prove yourself?
The ENTJ - That would be me ... but we're both kind of private. We're different, but the same in a lot of ways. It was just a matter of time and mutual respect.
http://www.womanformanlife.com/